What would Brian Boitano do if he was here right now?
He'd make a plan and he'd follow through, that's what Brian Boitano'd do.
-Trey Parker and Matt Stone, from South Park: The Movie
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So, I was having this dialogue with my wife the other night as we were watching
What Would Brian Boitano Make? on Food Network over dinner. What a scream. Love the energy. Anyway, she is a psychologist, and we razz each other back and forth about the buzzwords in our respective professions. So when I told her that the South Park song is all about being
planful, she was in my face about it being a made-up word, and a pretentious one at that.
Well, planful, intentional, organized, prepared, whatever. But she’s right, it’s not in the dictionary. However, it IS in the
Urban Dictionary. I quote:
"Beers on the weekend?"
"Sounds planful."
I rest my case. On the etymology. But now, let’s get to the underlying meaning and application.
You know the phrase, “fail to plan, plan to fail”. However nauseating that might sound, it works. I do like the word intentional better. Intention, like in the context of practicing Yoga, where you decide what outcome you’d like to achieve. And then, your practice evolves around that intention.
I know some who would rather wing it, and hesitate to commit to a goal. However, when you articulate a goal, and actually apply it to yourself, there is a power that is unleashed. Suddenly it becomes more clear, more defined. It went from a wish to a step closer to reality. You might even get what you asked for.
In our office furnishings dealership, we just underwent training by the Miller-Heiman organization on
Strategic Selling. Basically, that entire process is one of creating a sale out of a mere idea, and lays out numerous steps of discipline to get there. So at the start of the process there was a name and lots of blanks or red flags. Questions to answer. The first of which is about the opportunity itself. Does it include a need for
sustainable office furniture? Commercial flooring? Interactive whiteboards maybe? At the end of the process, a sale, a relationship, a customer or all three. What created that result was
planfulness.
A little less than a month after we got married, my wife’s birthday came along. So I asked her what she wanted and she said ‘nothing’. I have since learned, after some 26 years of practice, ‘nothing’ indicated that I was a moron to even have asked, since I should have been observing all along and if I really loved her I would have already known what she wanted. And gotten it for her. Without asking. Like she does for me. Ouch.
Well, back then I took her literally, and got her nothing for her birthday. Seriously. A card, some flowers, dinner, but nothing else. Needless to say, it was a disaster of epic proportion, and it took me the entire following weekend of shopping and groveling to get things back on track. So I asked her at the end of it, “why didn’t you just tell me what you wanted?”. She said, “Well, I’ll know what I want when I don’t get it.” So there it is.
Behind every complaint is a request. How can we unearth that request and then get planful about meeting it? This applies to customers, employees, bosses (especially bosses) and significant others. The first part of the solution is to bypass the emotional trip of buying into the complaint, being intimidated by it, or worse, taking it personally. Skip that part. The second part is to set the intention to fulfill the request, if you intend to, and get planful on how to fulfill it. BTW, more on the first part soon!
So what does planful look like for you? Is there that lingering elusive goal you are hesitating to go after? Is doing things the same way not getting you the results you want? Time to get planful. Start by declaring the goal, then setting some action steps, however far-fetched. But keep the goal out there. Speak it out loud. Write it in your calendar, or put it as a to-do in your Outlook Task List. This will start your inner dialogue about how you will accomplish it. Tell yourself that you plan to achieve it. Then start planning.
Brian Boitano might, “kick an ass or two” in seeing the plan through, you know. It starts with the intention, moves to the plan, and then is a matter of following through with determination.

So instead of whining and complaining about why I am 20 pounds heavier than I want to be, I declared a fitness goal (if I were really a hero, I would have set a time limit too, but first things first). Then, I wasn’t sure what to do differently, so I chose the South Beach Diet. That would be the planful part. Today is day 12 and I am down 7 pounds from the day I started. Yesterday, I started back to
Bikram Yoga, and the plan there is to do it twice a week. Then, weights, three times a week, hitting all body parts. Not going crazy, but realizing that if I want results, I might get them if I were planful.
And stick to the plan. More later.